Wednesday, 20 June 2012

My Views on Cherie Blair's Attack on Stay-At-Home Mums

I have just read an article in the Telegraph titled Cherie Blair attacks 'yummy mummies' who choose children over careers which has made me more than a little annoyed. In it she suggests that children, of who she terms, "yummy mummies", lack a sense of independence and that mums who choose to stay at home and rear their children are in fact settings a poor example for them. "Mrs Blair, a QC and mother of four, criticised women who “put all their effort into their children” instead of working. Mothers who go out to work are setting a better example for their children, she said."

The article goes on to say that Mrs Blair is worried that stay-at-home mothers like me are "turning their backs on the feminism of their mothers’ generation". My advice to her is don't worry. The decision to stay at home and look after your child is not an act of anti-feminism, it is a choice, and surely that is a good thing. Financially, it may not be possible for mothers to give up their career but, if it is, and they are happy to do so, why criticise them and spout utter nonsense about the harm they are doing to their children's self-confidence.

Contrary to what she believes, if you are a stay at home mom, the chances of having enough time to beautify yourself to be a perfectly groomed "yummy mummy" are next to none. It is a far cry from what she most likely envisages as the 1950's housewife lifestyle. From my experience, days are long and busy, you always have to be available but unlike when you are employed, you get very little recognition and now even less thanks to Mrs Blair's attitude which does nothing but belittle the role of a stay at home mum.

My Views on Cherie Blair's Attack on Stay-At-Home Mums
What Mrs Blair imagines life as a SAHM is like perhaps?

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

I agree with you. Why do women have such a need to criticise other women. I am a stay at home mum and feel its the right choise for my family at this time. But that doesn't mean that if I want/need to get a job in the future I couldn't. I don't feel dependant on my husband, this is what works for us now.
@MFM_Ealing

Carly said...

You're right, it's a choice that you make as a family, some people have to go back to work for financial reasons whilst others choose to give-up work to care for their children, or maybe childcare costs are simply too high and it wasn't worth going to work to pay for it (i certainly debated this when my second came along...x2 nursery fees is a killer!). There's no right or wrong way. I chose to go back to work as i didn't want to be a SAHM, we could have managed to live on one salary but i felt i wanted to go back to work part-time for my own personal reasons.

Gin. said...

I don't see why SAHM's get this problem. Surely they understand it's a job in itself? I'd rather stay with my children than go out and pay someone else over half my wage to stand in for me while I'm gone- that's the choice we made. Mister Mojo works damn hard so I can stay home, he loves the fact we did it this way. I respect working mothers & I respect stay at home mothers. We are all mothers at the end of the day, none of us should attacked for the choices we make.

Helen Grounds said...

What about us women who don't have a job to go back to? I don't have a job and no matter how hard I try looking for one I never get one. Okay I admit I haven't looked in the last 3 months but before I had a child and after I searched my butt off and still no luck. Does that make me a bad parent because I don't go out and work and instead stay at home with my child? No, I do enjoy being at home with my child, but if I did get a job offer and the income meant I wasn't losing out due to the cost of childcare then I'll take it on, but no way would I work a 9-5 job 5 days a week where my son will barely see me. He will be old enough for those sorts of days when he is in school and enjoying education and mingling with other children.

Mummy's Space said...

I totally agree with you, there is no right or wrong way here and it is entirely the choice of the parents. I think what Cherie Blair has said about the effect on children's confidence if they have a SAHM is outrageous and really stupid.

Mummy's Space said...

Exactly, this kind of criticism is uncalled for. Just like everything in parenting, families have their own views and ways of doing things that they think will best benefit their children. It is a personal choice and there is no right or wrong. Lashing out at SAHM's like Mrs Blair has done is ridiculous and dare I say rather dumb. I struggle to understand where she has got the notion that just because you stay at home when your kids are young, you will transform from a once confident career person to a meek woman who is entirely dependent on the man in her life and can never be employable again.

Mummy's Space said...

Exactly, she really has made a blanket statement attacking SAHM's. There are many reasons why families make decisions on this issue, both forced or personal preference and she or anyone else has no right to criticise parents who work or those who stay at home. BTW good luck with your job hunt, I hope you get something you like, that suits you and your family. x

SusanKMann said...

As a working mum I think cheri Blair has no idea. I don't think I'm any better a role model for my children than those who are stay at home mums. We all have a role to play we all do our best. Both are hard work. Hats off to us all x

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